Five ways to get a divorce

There are three parts to getting a divorce

• The dissolution of the marriage
• Children’s arrangements
• Financial arrangements

This involves obtaining the Decree Nisi, a document which states that the court does not see any reason why the divorce cannot proceed and a Decree Absolute - the official document which ends your marriage.

In between obtaining the Decree Nisi and Decree Absolute there is a at least a 6 week gap which is designed to allow you and your partner time to discuss child and finance arrangements. For further information read The divorce process.

These involve deciding how you will care for any children, where they will live and how they will be supported. It is not possible to apply for a Decree Absolute until a court is satisfied that satisfactory arrangements for the children are in place.

These include deciding how you will divide your assets and liabilities and where you will live. Not all couples come to a formal arrangement regarding finances. However a divorce does not end the right of a former spouse to make financial claims on the other. Therefore it is advisable to have your financial arrangements recorded in a Consent Order, which can detail your agreement and provide that neither of you can make a financial claim on the other in the future.

Separation agreements

Prior to applying for a Decree Nisi some couples create a separation agreement, to deal with the financial aspects of ending a marriage. This can be used to split property and other assets and record other financial arrangements. Agreeing on your financial arrangements early on can make getting a Consent Order easier. You can either draw up a separation agreement yourselves, or you can talk to a lawyer who will be able to assist you. For more information read Separating from your spouse or civil partner.

If both partners agree on matters regarding finances and children, getting a divorce is rather straightforward. Therefore it is possible to get a divorce cheaply using a do-it-yourself method or online. You will need to make yourself aware of the various elements of the process and be willing to undertake all the admin. You can divorce from £250+VAT with Rocket Lawyer (in association with New Bold Solicitors). Web-based services usually include a degree of guidance from a divorce lawyer but are much cheaper than actually going to visit a solicitor.

There are several options if you and your spouse can’t agree. These include:

• Mediation
• Arbitration
• Using a solicitor
• Going to court

Mediation

Family mediation is where an independent, trained professional helps you and your ex to work out agreements for your children or your finances. They can assist you to create a parenting plan or help you to figure out which financial documents to base your decisions on. They will also be able to recommend a lawyer who will be able to record your agreements into a legal document.

Arbitration

Arbitration is distinct from mediation, in that it involves appointing an arbitrator to make a decision on any financial and property issues arising from the breakdown of your relationship (ie. rather than reaching a mutual agreement).

Using a divorce solicitor

Using a solicitor can be expensive, but a solicitor will manage all stages of the divorce. It may be necessary to use a solicitor where there are tricky issues involved and unresolved disputes. Often they will be able to help you achieve a divorce without the involvement of the court (other than granting the Decree Nisi and Decree Absolute).

Going to court

Going to court can be costly and may involve using a barrister if the case goes to final hearing before a judge. However, if you and your partner are unable to negotiate (such as in cases of domestic violence, or where your partner refuses to disclose assets) it may be necessary to apply to the court for a financial order.

You will need to at least have attended a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) before taking any divorce dispute to court. If after your MIAM, if it is decided that mediation is not suitable for your case, the court will allow proceedings to be issued.

Informal arrangement

Some couples decide to end their marriage without taking any formal steps. You can simply come to an informal arrangement with your spouse, choose to stop living together and essentially bring your relationship to a conclusion. Obviously you will need to agree on the practical arrangements such as how to split any finances and possessions, what to do about your accommodation (eg. if you have a joint mortgage, will you sell the property or will one of you buy the other’s share of the mortgage?) and, if you have children, which parent will become the primary carer etc. If you are in receipt of any benefits or tax reductions as a result of your marriage, you will also need to inform your council, benefits office, HMRC and any other relevant bodies. This does not separate you legally and you cannot remarry.

Judicial separation

If you would like to legally separate from your spouse but cannot get a divorce (eg. because you have not been married for a year) or do not wish to actually get a divorce (possibly for religious reasons), you can obtain a judicial separation. Although this does not dissolve the marriage, it does allow the court to divide any matrimonial property and assets, and it means that husband and wife will not be treated as such for the purposes of any wills. However, remember that you cannot remarry if unless you get an actual divorce.