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Asking Your Spouse-to-Be for a Prenup

Asking your spouse-to-be for a Prenuptial Agreement can lead to arguments and heartache. Here are some tips for making the process of asking for a prenup much easier.

Ask well in advance
The time right before your wedding can be a very stressful period. Don't add to the stress by asking for a prenup too late. Ask your spouse at least six months before your wedding date. Some Prenuptial Agreement may be challenged as invalid if it they are drawn up and signed within 30 days of the wedding. This short notice may be argued as coercion.

Be prepared
Plan where and when you are going to talk to your spouse about the prenup. Don’t choose a public place, as this type of discussion may lead to strong emotions and arguments. Explain in a calm manner how your spouse will also benefit from the prenuptial agreement. Be ready for the reaction of "Don't you trust me?"

Get a mediator
If your spouse-to-be reacts in a bad way or refuses to sign a Prenuptial Agreement, consider getting a mediator to step in. Visiting a relationship counselor, member of the clergy or even an attorney may help. A meditator may be able to explain the practical reasons of having a prenuptial agreement in place.

Create the Prenuptial Agreement together
If you make the process of creating the Prenuptial Agreement a shared experience, the value of the document will not be one-sided. Using an online service like RocketLawyer.com allows you to work together to create your Prenuptial Agreement by clicking through an interview and answering questions to create the legal form automatically. You can work at your own speed in a comfortable place, rather than the charged environment of an attorney’s office. Choosing this method will reduce stress and save a lot on legal fees.